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40 first dates?

Someone e-mailed me this article from CNN.com. I’m not sure why. I am single, but I’ll let you in a on a secret – I don’t earn enough to get invited to the event described. I checked in just a under the $500,000 line this year. Perhaps it was my supermodel good looks? I digress.

In any event, the article describes a dating event held in NYC. To be invited, you had to be a man that earns a whole bunch of money, or a woman that is a whole bunch of hot. The event was called the first-ever “Natural Selection Speed Date: Rich Guys & Hot Girls event.”

Why is this interesting to an economist type – or budding economic students?

Believe it or not, some economists like to think about marriage (not this one). You might have guessed it, but economists analyze the process of searching for a perspective spouse in a similar fashion to how one might analyze searching for a job, or even an appliance or new car. Let’s first talk about “search” in terms of cars.

Take for an example, someone looking for a new car. Let’s imagine that people know what type of car they want, and that there are several dealers that sell the exact car they want. But let us suppose that the consumer does not know the price each dealer is charging unless the consumer physically visits the dealer’s lot. This consumer must “search” for a good price. The consumer knows that there is a distribution of prices – some dealers charge higher prices while some dealers charge lower prices – but doesn’t know which dealer is which.

How many car lots should the consumer visit?

Should the consumer purchase the car from the first dealer? Likely not. Visiting a second dealer might result in finding a lower price. Perhaps a third or forth will result in a lower price still. But if the consumer has already visited 99 dealers, is it likely that a visit to the 100th dealer would result in a lower price? What are the odds that the last dealer is the dealer with the lowest price? Pretty slim.

What I am trying to point out is that there is a marginal benefit for each additional “search”. The marginal benefit is derived from the likelihood that this extra search results in a dealer that offers a lower price than has previously been offered by all other dealers. The marginal benefit of each search declines as more searches have occurred.

There is also a marginal cost for each additional “search” – the time and energy it takes to visit the dealer. This cost is quite likely close to constant for each additional search.

Simple economic theory tells us there is an optimal number of visits to dealers. Likely more than one, but likely less than all. Also, the more costly it is to check out prices, the fewer searches will occur. If searches are cheap, say if everyone posts their prices on the internet, many searches would occur.

Ok, but what does this have to do with dating?

Think of a date as a trip to the car dealership (not a good place for an actual date, though). Hopefully, you are not trying learn the price of your date (that’s illegal), but you are “searching” for a potential match. Just as you wouldn’t marry the first person you dated, you wouldn’t want to date everyone before you decided to whom you wish to get married.

I think it is comical that people are calling the people that attending the dating event shallow, crass, or gold diggers. In fact, I think they are just smart. People know what they want. Would you call someone crass if they were interested in fancy furniture and bypassed shopping at Wal-Mart? This event is designed to lower the cost of searching.

As a non-Louisianan, one thing that strikes as different about Louisiana is that 90% of the people living in Louisiana were born in Louisiana. I’d claim that is a higher number, and that people who are born in this area tend to stay in this area. I would claim that the average Louisianan is not as mobile as the average American. In addition, particularly in this area, people have grown up in small towns.

There is not as much room to comment on this post, so I’ll give a bonus point to the first person who gives a good answer to this question. How might folks having less mobility affect the average age at which people get married in this area? Explain in the context of a search process. Why?

–CT

8 Responses to “40 first dates?”

  1. Megan Marie Says:

    People from Louisiana typically start dating someone at the age of 12. Most dont usually leave the town they live in, such as, Houma, Chauvin, Bourg, Thibodaux. So the people in our community are the only people we know, and usually the only ones we want to know. People become comfortable with the familiar; so if someone starts dating someone at the age of 12, they stay together until about 18 and get married. For that person, there is no need for them to get to know people from anywhere else because they decided at a young age that they had already found the person that they wanted to spend the rest of their life with.

  2. chad Says:

    I believe we have a winner…

    –CT

  3. Lauren Arcement Says:

    Note that I am not going for points here!

    I would just like to say that I agree with Megan’s answer completely. I am a prime example of why the unmobile people of Louisiana date locally and, basically, marry early. The person I am currently dating is from my area (Bourg). Not only do we live in the same area, but we live down the same street (no more than five houses away). We started dating when I was fifteen and he was sixteen. We rode the same school bus, went to the same school, the whole bit. We intend to marry soon. This is infact how it works around here. The story is similar for many of my friends.

  4. Stephanie Savoy Says:

    I believe that people that come from small towns are more afraid to go out in the big world because they don’t know what’s out there and they don’t want to leave what they have down here. We tend to be VERY close to our family’s and marry our high school sweetheart. Which we believe is fine because two to one our family’s already know each other and adore one another. So why risk the small town “everyone knows and loves you” and go to a big town where no one knows you?

  5. chris mercado Says:

    Speed dating is a formalized matchmaking process or dating system whose purpose is to encourage people to meet a large number of new people. It’s not just for erotic swingers. Its origins are credited to Rabbi Yaacov Deyo of Aish HaTorah, originally as a way to help Jewish singles meet and marry. “SpeedDating”, as a single word, is a registered trademark of Aish HaTorah. “Speed dating”, as two separate words, is often used as a generic term for similar events.
    If you go to http://www.badspace .com you will find an abundance of articles there to help you understand speed dating better & they will also give you tips to help you be on top of your game.

  6. Travis Verdin Says:

    I think speed dating is a natural progreesion of dating in this day and time. Most people are so entrenched with work that getting out and meeting someone that you find slightly interesting is difficult. Couple that with the added pressures of being wealthy or being “hot”, the choices get infinitly smaller. At least in this forum, like minded people have the chance to meet and test compatibility in a non-threatening environment. Their small town counterparts never know any culture outside of their own. This might be fine if you don’t know any better, but diversity and exposure to different cultures is called personal growth. Let’s be honest, age and mobility are usually affected because the individuals who participate, at the time, are not as educated or exposed to diversity. This can happen in “big cities” as well as in “small towns” and usually comes down to education. Less educated poeple not exposed to the outside world get married younger and stay put because that is all they know.

  7. Amber Dardar Says:

    I think speed dating is not a bad thing. It does not let people waste time on searching for someone that is probably not right for them. Most Louisianans do not leave their towns and marry from their home towns. In a way this is not good, but you don’t waste time “searching” either. Like everyone else you know what you want, and you know how most Louisiana people will act. At least you know what you’re getting yourself into.

  8. Curtis Bashkiharatee Says:

    I see how speed dating could be viewed as good, kinda like shopping for things on the internet, all of the stuff you want in one place definately lowers the price of searching. But is it worth it, being degraded?